We say age is just a number, but deep in our bones we wonder and perhaps even hide unloving feelings and judgements about entering our years of wisdom.
We want to claim the prize of excellence that could come with the experience of years spent, laboriously or gracefully, growing our souls and hearts, but some of us shy away from wearing the suits that would label us old in the eyes of Youth. We fear separation, exclusion, invisibility.
Even more for women who are single, divorced or widowed, how brave to embrace the big numbers which come with the stigma that dry skin equals juicy-lessness or whatever preconception looming in the corner of our comparative mind!
This male friend of mine came of the dance floor the other night at our weekly music and dance gathering, saying:" Gosh, it's all about numbers!! There is attraction on both sides, physically, intellectually, the vibe is great and then boom! If I reveal that I'm 63, they're gone..." He looked upset about it and truly he does not look 63, but I asked: "well...are you flirting with the young ones?". "No" he answered with a definite matter of fact expression," but I don't date women that are passed 50!".
How interesting I thought...complaining about numbers...? Numbers will come back and bite you in the butt!
Some of the juiciest, sexiest, most delicious Goddesses I know are 50 plus! They are gorgeous on all levels, smart, funny, empowered ( of course that could be the issue, but that's another article...) and everything but bitter from their lives experiences, so what's the fuss about that 50 gate?
Truly if 40 is the new 30, don't we see that 50 is the new 40?
So how do we make that work for real?
Well, first perhaps we start walking that road as early as possible. Implementing health practices such as good sleep, good healthy foods, spiritual and exercise practices, little use of alcohol, tobacco or other party favors early on. But if you have not taking good care of yourself before, you've been raising a bunch of kids, worked full time, had huge responsibilities or a difficult past to heal, no worries! First forgive yourself, as judgments and unloving thoughts will tighten your jaws, make your eyes squint and add wrinkles to your heart.
Remember that true glow comes from inside and it starts with the love you cultivate for yourself.
Then start implementing at least 3 of these 7 steps per week...and see what happens in 3 weeks.
Step 1: Make a point to turn off your light by 11pm as many nights as possible.
Step 2: If you are not already, choose to eat organic foods as much as possible.
Step 3: Start the day with some kind of meditation, intentional practice, breath exercise. (if you don't know how to start, take my FREE 10-day to Sparkle your Life -Challenge).
Step 4: Exercise at least 3 times a week. You can start small, like walking around the block, going on a gentle hike, do 10 minutes of yoga, or join a pool, or a dance class.
Step 5: Gently wean yourself off sugar, processed food, and heavy meat diet.
Step 6: Choose kindness as your religion.
Step 7: Love, Love, Love yourself.
This is a sweet beginning. We need all of us to shine our light, strength, wisdom and courage at a time where destabilizing waves come strong and often. I look forward to be of service and invite you to walk deeper onto this path of Self-Love and Beauty... I got tons of tools to share with you. We can start where you are, a teacher or a novice, I'm pretty sure I got something for you.
And I will always remind you that...The Guru is You !!